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Based off of recent blood work I don’t have premature menopause (yay!), I probably have an autoimmune disorder(not yay). Based off of recent blood work, my thyroid is underactive. So whatever is wrong with me is affecting my ovaries and my thyroid. My doctor had blood work done on my adrenal glands and next week I should know the results.
If my adrenal glands are insufficient my doctor believes I have something called called Adrenal insufficiency type II, which is supposed to rare but yay special me, I may have it. If my adrenal glands aren’t being affected then I’m not sure what to do. Probably more blood work. During my latest doctor I asked him what could be affecting both my ovaries and thyroid and he said any sort of autoimmune disorder but named the adrenal insufficiency, which tells me he’s pretty confident that’s what I have.
Doctor prescribed me birth control ( to bring back my periods and restore estrogen to my body) and some thyroid medication to help regulate it. So far so good except I have massive bloating and it’s making me super self conscience. I’ve only been them since Monday so I haven’t had any other massive changes. It’s estimated it’ll be three months before my period fully returns.
While I’m happy for the birth control restoring my body to a normal state, I really hate this. Little Sister was telling me this sounds like what she went through on birth control and according to her it sounds like my body is having a period without the blood. It’s nice knowing the birth control is working but it puts me a in weird position.
With premature menopause I couldn’t have children. I would have a better chance of becoming the next leader of ISIL and deciding our battle plans based off which food my cats wanted to eat that day than ever naturally conceiving a child. Depending on what’s wrong with me now, there is a greater chance of me being able to have kids.
I’ve never though of myself as a mom because it’s just been assumed that would not be a reality. Little Sister and I have talked about being moms so much, especially when she was pregnant but it was always what she would do and my advice for her. While I’m not in a relationship and honestly don’t have plans for one right now, it’s just so strange thinking someday I could be a mom.
I’ve tried picturing myself as a mom, as someone’s wife and it’s just a massive foreign concept. Part of the reason I was so against dating is because I thought since I couldn’t have kids, who would want to be with me? Starting a family is such a big deal to a lot of people and it was such a massive blow to my self esteem, I thought why even bother looking for someone?
Now that the whole family life is a reality for me I’m not sure if I even want it. I want to live in a 7×12 Vardo, not a house. I don’t want to get married and I’m still weird about sex. Like yea, you can date me but you can’t live with me and by the way you also can’t sleep with me so deal.
Not exactly the best way to have a relationship.
It feels like I’m stuck at a fork in the road of do I keep doing what I’m doing (which I’m happy doing) or do I start trying to be relatively normal and do a normal thing like actively try to seek a partner and plan for a future with them?
I have no idea. I have no idea what I want. Well no, that’s not true. I want my blood work to come back so I can finally be diagnosed with whatever the fuck is wrong with me. Then I should seek treatment for my eating disorder and get that diagnosed. I’m fairly certain I have EDNOS but I thought that about the premature menopause and it turned out that wasn’t it. So.
Speaking of eating disorders, I survived Thanksgiving. I also learned I’m way too neurotic to live with people. I spent the holiday with Mom’s parents, her, and Baby Sister. It was so great everyone again but I swear to God, I hate their house. It’s a three bed, two bath house and it’s soooo crowded. There’s only four people yet every single corner has something in it.
Maybe I’m just used to living alone in a relatively empty house or maybe I just hate small cramped spaces, but I was not happy staying there. It was only for two night but good God, I don’t want to do that again. I do want to see my family again though so I’ll just have to suck it up but omigod, ooommmigod, they are like borderline hoarders and don’t even realize. Grandpa is actually probably a hoarder for reals because he kept a bag of trash for no reason once. Even Grandma was confused by that because it was really gross.
But yea, Thanksgiving was great. They made some vegan dishes for me again this year, which is really considerate of them. I felt as though I ate a lot but today, I did not. While I’m still not counting calories I only ate my usual udon noodle dish and two cups of hash browns with some ketchup- which I didn’t finish, there’s exactly 1/3 cup left and I know because I shit you not, I put it in a measuring cup just to be certain. If I wasn’t awake right now I wouldn’t have had the potatoes. Even though I’m getting cravings with the birth control, like the hunger itself isn’t there and drinking coffee or diet soda typically gets rid of the cravings so then I don’t even want to eat. I’m not even sure why I made hash browns because all it did was upset my stomach further and now I just want soda.
I’m going to be an anorexic that lives off of soda and vitamins. I used to hate soda but I swear it’s like the only thing now that doesn’t make me feel sick besides water.
Even though I’m not underweight, still fucking at 113, I’m worried my periods won’t come back because I can’t stop under-eating. On days where I try to push myself, I can’t finish the food. Even though I’m trying not too I feel like I’m falling deeper in the eating disorder. I’m not sure if I have body dysmorphia too because I keep wrapping my hands around my thigh and my neck but when I look in the mirror, I swear nothing has changed and I’m still overweight.
You know I have googled what the average body measurements are and measured myself, multiple times, just to make myself feel better. That’s lasts for like a couple hours then I start obsessing again. I swear I have my measurements for everything memorized but it’s like I must be lying because then I have to double check then I have to google if that’s fat or not. Then I have to check again. Then google again but must go to a different page in case the first one was wrong. Wash, rinse, repeat for an hour, then maybe I’ll be emotionally drained enough to sleep.
This bloating is fucking messing with me too. It’s bad enough I’ve started calculating how much weight I gain naturally throughout the day but now I have to guesstimate how much the bloating is artificially raising my weight, and convince myself it’s fine. Right now I can still think rationally about the bloating but I just feel myself slipping and I think that’s why I’m loosing my appetite. When I can, I’m getting stuff to reduce the bloating. I was doing okay until it started. It’s set me off so bad I wish I could puke up my food but I really don’t want to mess my teeth up. It’s bad enough I’m drinking diet soda again.
Belly dancing has helped out though. A lot of dancers don’t have flat stomachs so that makes me feel better however that’s only taking me so far. I keep telling myself I just need to exercise and tone up and I know realistically I’m at a good weight now but the effed up part of my brain is telling me this is sooo bad and I need to be thinner.
The worst part is if I do have Adrenal insufficiency type II then I’m at risk of developing anorexia. I’m not sure but I guess it has to do with the hormones being messed up, that triggers the e.d? If that is my problem then it would partially explain why I’m having the issue with food now.
For now, I’m going to go. I hope everyone had a great Thanksgiving and good luck with any Black Friday( or is a Black weekend now?) shopping.
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